5 Ways to Convince Your Loved One to Join AA

When a friend or loved one struggles with addiction, it’s natural to want to do everything in your power to connect them with the help they need. Twelve-step recovery programs such as AA are highly successful at helping addicts get clean and achieve lifelong sobriety. If your loved one isn’t quite on board with going to rehab or AA, there are ways you can encourage them to seek help without making them feel alienated or bad about their addiction.

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Here are five effective ways to convince a loved one who struggles with addiction to join AA.

1. Avoid Being Judgmental

Many who struggle with addiction tend to deny they have a problem or that they need help. If this sounds like your loved one, gently explain why you feel concerned about their drinking problem without being judgmental. Being judgmental can make your loved one feel worse and more ashamed, and drive their need to drink.

Sharing your concerns without being judgmental shows you care about your loved one’s well-being, which can go a long way toward influencing them to seek addiction treatment.

2. Stage an Intervention

Convince Your Loved One to Join AA

Offer your support while your loved one attends AA and treatment.

The concept of staging an intervention for addiction is frequently mocked on television shows and in movies, but interventions can be highly effective. Ask family members and friends close to your loved one to help you stage an intervention. Your loved one may finally seek treatment once they realize how many people truly do care.

3. Rehearse Positive Lines

The way you deliver your message to your loved one can make a huge impact on the outcome. Before approaching your loved one about their drinking problem, practice and rehearse what you want to say. Stick to positive, supportive words and messages, versus negative, judgmental words that make them feel bad about their addiction.

For example, explain to your loved one that you care about them, and don’t want to see their life and health get worse due to drinking. Avoid saying negative things that can hurt your loved one’s feelings, such as telling them they need to get help because they’ve become a loser.

4. Choose the Right Time and Place

Approach your loved one at a time you know you’ll have their full undivided attention. Delivering your message when your loved one is exhausted or distracted may not have the impact you desire. Choose the right time, and a place in which you can speak openly and freely without interruption.

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5. Stay By Their Side

Going to alcohol rehab or AA meetings can be scary and overwhelming for some addicts. Offer to stick by your loved one’s side until they feel comfortable enough to progress with recovery on their own. For instance, offer to take care of your loved one during withdrawal if they participate in an outpatient detox program, and offer to attend open AA meetings with them.

If you are struggling with alcohol addiction, understand that you’re not alone, and that it’s never too late to get help. Call our 24/7 confidential helpline at 800-839-1686 to learn more about nearby AA Anonymous meetings and alcohol rehab centers devoted to helping you achieve lifelong sobriety.

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